Stress and Radiance are like Oil and Water

Have you been wondering where your vitality, radiance and even your ‘sexy’ went? 



I have a pretty good guess, but first, let’s see how you answer the following questions.


Answer the following Yes or No

  • I get 7 to 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep every night.
  • I eat the right food for my body everyday.
  • I don’t eat any sugar.
  • I don’t drink coffee.
  • I don’t eat food that comes out of a box.
  • I drink at least 64 ounces of water every day.
  • I take omega supplements daily.
  • I enjoy the company of my best friends a minimum 1 time a week.
  • I only hang out with people that I really feel good around.
  • I have a job or vocation that I enjoy and fulfills me.
  • I eat lots of green veggies.
  • I enjoy walking in nature 3 to 4 times a week.
  • I meditate.
  • I have a thriving spiritual connection.
  • I can say no without guilt.
  • I always rest when I am tired.
  • I exercise my body 4 or more times a week.


Now, add up your score…

Did you score 14 -17 points?  Congratulations!  You’re rocking your life and need to share your secrets.  Go ahead, skip the rest, scroll to the bottom and give me your tips for staying true to you.

Did you score 10 – 13?  Think of this as a flashing yellow light in a construction zone.  Slow down before you hit the concrete wall or run off the road. Be kinder and gentler with yourself. With some small consistent changes you will start feeling better in no time.

Did you score 1 – 9?  You have got to stop what you are doing because it is not working for you.  Change it now.  Your health is taking a licking and your the one doing it to yourself.  That’s right, you’re a grown up, you’ve got to take care of you. 


If you scored below 6 you are seriously damaging your organs, your immunity and your relationships, especially the most important one…

the one with your health.


You see, you can’t be vital, radiant or feel sexy if your stress resiliency is low.

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It’s like trying to mix oil and water.

The good news is that you can increase your ability to handle stress.

You can also learn what really helps you feel better…it’s not a pint of Ben and Jerry’s Chunky Monkey lit by an episode of Sex In The City.

When you give yourself a break, lower undue stress and improve your self care you will get your groove back.



Here are 4 fundamentally fabulous tips to get your radiance and ‘sexy’ back. 


Sleep more.

Yes, they have done studies on sleep, health, immunity, and resiliency and sleep is absolutely crucial to your health. Create a bedtime ritual.  Turn off overhead lighting and technology at least 1 hour before you want to go to bed.  Think about which of your night time habits, if they don’t help you be happier and healthier replace them with ones that will support you. Every night, I diffuse essential oils, specifically Calming Blend and Grounding Blend, for deeper, more restful sleep. 

Eat the right food for your body. 

Your body is the home of your soul, it is the way you will experience your purpose and fulfillment.  If you have adopted a way of eating that isn’t good for you it’s like leaving the windows open during a storm over and over and over.  One by one, your body’s systems will start to degrade.  For women, it’s generally our reproductive and hormones that suffer first.  To learn the foods that are right for you, you can do an elimination diet or get extra help from me, join one of my cleanses.

Start taking omega supplements. 

If you are not eating 4 or more servings of salmon or sardines a week you simply don’t have enough.  Your skin, your heart, your mood, your brain and your libido will thank you.  Omega supplements can be tricky, I suggest getting your omegas from both plant and animal sources.  I have found that the supplements you choose really do matter. If you want to know which supplements I suggest contact me.

Say yes to yourself so you can say no…

to that project or ‘friend’ that you drains you. Look at your schedule. What or who can you take out? Where or with whom can you have more ease and fun? Now, put the fun and ease in your schedule. If you don’t schedule it, you don’t really want it.  You do want to have fun don’t you?


Begin to meditate.  Have you seen all the research about meditation and health?  Simply google the words ‘meditation health benefits’ and you will have more than enough to read for well over a week.

Click here for an easy meditation…


Remember, you may have been living with a score of 1 – 9 for a while, so it will take more than a day, a week and it might even take more than a month to rock your radiance again. Be patient with yourself, you wouldn’t expect a neglected house plant to get lush and green overnight, so give your body, your cells, your mind and your heart time to recover. 


Tell me…

What did you find out about yourself and your habits that you can change to feel more radiant, vital and yes, even sexier?







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