Do this to realize your goals

Rommy Kirby — Wed, 26 Nov 2014 01:32:22 +0000

In a fit of excitement, have you ever made a deal with yourself, set a goal, and then it just fizzled out?

I used to make some really crazy deals with myself. Like getting up thirty minutes earlier for quiet time, or 4:00 a.m. yoga practice, or planning a weeks worth of meals. Then, I didn’t follow through, so my goals just withered.

This led to feelings of guilt and laziness. I felt unmotivated to set future goals because I couldn’t make my pie in the sky goal a reality.

I mean, why bother if I’m not going to complete what I start?

As a health coach, I’ve learned from my clients that most of us have crazy conversations with ourselves when we want to make a positive change in our health, relationships, or careers. Our minds can get really carried away with grandiose plans to reach that elusive Nirvana-like satisfaction.

We tickle our fancy with plans, visions of feeling great, and accomplishment. But these thoughts remain in our heads, while our bodies continue to do things that get us nowhere fast.

The problem is that because we are all grown up, our ego tells us that we can do it without writing it down, making a plan, or sharing our goals with anyone.

If you do follow this simple step by step formula for setting your goals you will realize them, I promise.

My beautiful friend crossing the finish line!!! Congrats gorgeous!

Think about the times your friend told you something radically crazy like, “I just signed up for the Rudolph 10k” when they’ve never run before.

Do you remember looking at them like they had six eyes and no brain?

Then, do you remember they couldn’t meet you for the morning muffin at the coffee shop because they were in training and had to clock some miles?

Now, do you recall how happy they were when they actually finished the run and now have a personal best?

What an awesome feeling to experience!!!

So here’s how they did it, this is the

Simple Strategic Formula to Achieving Massive Results.

First, they started with a desired feeling.

You see, people don’t run because they like running, they run because of the way it makes them feel. They join races because of the accomplishment they feel when they cross the finish line.

What feeling do you want to experience in your health, your happiness, your relationships, your personal development, your finances, your career, or your world impact?

Second, they firmed up their goal.

They filled out the paperwork and backed it up with a small investment known as a fee.

It may seem like a small and inconsequential step, but with each movement of the pen, they got their mind and body involved by ‘writing’ out their goal to finish the race.

Write down your goals. Meeting your goals will help you experience the feeling you want.

Third, they told EVERYONE.

Yep, they even got a little bit annoying and sometimes boring because all they could talk about was their upcoming race.

Tell people your goals!

But be choosy. To be honest, your goals to get healthy, improve your relationships, or even your career will challenge some of the people you hang out with. If it does, you might consider if they really have your best interest at heart or just want someone to wallow around with.

Fourth, they scheduled their training.

The scheduled time in their day for their training runs, but also time to meet their nutritional needs and the all important rest days.

Schedule simple, really simple daily actions that when taken everyday will get you one step closer to your goal.

Fifth, they took action.

Even when the weather was bad, they would rather have slept in, or when they would have rather hung out with you at the coffee shop talking about what’s on sale at the mall they showed up for themselves.

When they started, they may have only been able to jog-trot for 5 minutes, so that’s exactly what they did. A few days later, they went little further.

Take action. Don’t go out and try to make sweeping changes in one day. That only works when you’re cleaning out your closet.

Everyday, do at least one action that will get you closer to your desired goal.

That’s it. That’s how they ran a race when they had never run one before. That’s how they experienced the feeling of accomplishment. It really is that simple.

That’s exactly how you can reach your goals, the feelings you want to experience, in any area of your life.

Tell me…

What is it you want to do, feel, or be? What is one simple daily action you know you can take everyday that will get you there?

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How to set goals you want to achieve

Rommy Kirby — Tue, 31 Dec 2013 17:42:48 +0000

Goal setting is something with which most of us have a lot of experience. BUT realizing our goals, well, that’s another thing altogether.

There are 3 primary reasons why New Year’s Resolutions and goals tend to bomb.

The number one reason goals and resolutions fail is that they are generally made from a place of guilt, shame or a sense of unworthiness. For instance, the goal to lose weight is not only physical, it is emotional and full of shame. The goal to get out of debt is not just financial, it is emotional and generally filled with guilt for having made decisions towards instant gratification. Every time we bring that goal into focus, we also bring the guilt or shame that precipitated the goal into focus.

The second reason that goals and resolutions bomb is that achieving them is usually no fun. It is boring, mundane and takes longer than we expect. Sure, you can lose 5 pounds in one week with my detox. It’s an intelligent jump start. Keeping it off, though, requires you to employ the fundamental principles you learn at least 80% of the time.

It’s the same with all your goals. It isn’t the sweeping overnight change that will bring the long term success you desire. If that worked, every one of the lottery winners would still be rich. Instead, it is the everyday habits you tend to ignore as unimportant that will bring you success.

Depressed yet? Don’t be, knowing what is sabotaging you is like getting your hands on the opposing teams play book! It’s a life hack!!!

The third reason goals and resolutions fail is that…they are ultimately simple and easy to reach.

Okay, I know you’re saying…it’s not simple to lose weight, float into a handstand or build a thriving business. But it is. The steps to each of your goals are easy to take. The kicker is that they are just as easy NOT to take.

It is just as easy to take a daily 10 minute walk as it is to not take a walk today.

So how do you set a goal that you want to achieve?

You’ve got to have a good “WHY”. Why do you want to lose weight, float to crow or build a thriving business? Hint…it isn’t the number on the scale, the kudos from your yoga teacher or the deposits in your bank account.

Your “WHY” is rooted in feeling. How will you feel when you walk into your closet and can pull out that super sexy dress, slide it on and step out for a great night?

Focus on what you want to feel. Set your goal around that. Keep the feeling you desire in the forefront of your mind, not the number on the scale, the number of breaths you can hold Chaturanga, or the number in your bank account.

Believe me, there are plenty of unhappy 120 pound size 4-ers, yogies with mad skills and incredibly rich people.

Give yourself a chance to feel into your desired result, choose to do at least one thing every single day that will bring you that experience. The super secret sauce is sticking with it. Every time you get off track, stumble or fall, get back up.

You already know how to do this...you started doing it when you were about 11 months old learning to walk and experience life on two feet.

Tell me…

What do you want to enjoy in your health, your relationships or your business?

What are 3 easy things you can do daily that will bring you to that experience?

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